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How to Make Children Learn Self Control
Aside from having control over one’s emotions, self-control is the ability to think before taking
action. Absence or lack of self-control will lead to a person act on impulse, which can lead to
doing things that can be regretted later on. Children need to be taught the essential skill of
self-control at an early age, in order for them to cope better with life’s challenges, as they
grow older.
Teaching self-discipline to students starts by example. Teachers must practice this skill in
order to relay this effectively to her class. He should always demonstrate the healthy way to
react to stress, instead of getting angry and emotional.
One of the effective tools in teaching self-control to students is letting them engage in self-
dialogue. He should learn to assess a situation, and preconceive the consequences if he acts
out of line. For instance, if he is tempted to get into a fight with a fellow student, he should
consider the following scenarios: If I do hit him, he will hit back and we will get into a big
fight. If we are caught, I will be sent to the principal’s office, and he might suspend me or
expel from school. If that happens, my mom and dad will get mad at men, and worse, will be
disappointed in me. So maybe I should not do this at all.
When on the brink of losing self-control, students can take deep breaths, talk to someone and
distract him with other things, in order to alleviate the negative emotions burning inside him.
The trouble with children who lack self-control is that they become rebellious, and will be
unable to see or understand what the other children are feeling or thinking about. They will
often resort to anger to let out their steam, and when faced with a difficult situation, they will
rather provoke someone negatively instead of looking for calmer and peaceful ways to
distract him from the problem. In addition, they assume that being aggressive will make them
appear tough and brave to other feelings, and that they might be admired for his behavior.
It is the job of teachers to get this under control and teach a student how to learn self-control.
Here are some tips on how to do just that. First is to let the children come in front of the class,
one by one, and have them demonstrate an emotion. The other kids can identify that feeling.
Then talk about the reasons why they might have these kinds of feelings. The benefit of which
is that you are letting the students name positive ways to cope with these negative feelings.
Some of these ways are talking to a parent, reading a book, chatting with a friend, exercising
and writing down their feelings in a diary.
Make them understand where all those anger are coming from. Explain that losing self-control
is a result of feeling embarrassed, hurt, rejected and misunderstood. Pair the kids and have
them engage in a little role-play. Act out these situations and make them emulate the positive
reactions that you suggested to them. Inspire the children to practice self-control.
Tell them how self-control can contribute positively to their future. Tell them to write an essay
on the kind of life they want when they grow up, or have they drawn the occupation that they
see themselves in the future.
Show them how to make themselves calm. Teach them calming exercises such as taking deep
breaths, counting slowly until their anger melts away etc. Alternatively, you can tell them to
go somewhere quiet in order for them to gather their thoughts and compose themselves.
The result is rewarding. As a teacher, it is your best interest to see these children grow as
responsible individuals. You would never know who would greet you along the street one day
or that someone sent you a warm greeting card stating that he or she was your student way
back.
Aside from having control over one’s emotions, self-control is the ability to think before taking
action. Absence or lack of self-control will lead to a person act on impulse, which can lead to
doing things that can be regretted later on. Children need to be taught the essential skill of
self-control at an early age, in order for them to cope better with life’s challenges, as they
grow older.
Teaching self-discipline to students starts by example. Teachers must practice this skill in
order to relay this effectively to her class. He should always demonstrate the healthy way to
react to stress, instead of getting angry and emotional.
One of the effective tools in teaching self-control to students is letting them engage in self-
dialogue. He should learn to assess a situation, and preconceive the consequences if he acts
out of line. For instance, if he is tempted to get into a fight with a fellow student, he should
consider the following scenarios: If I do hit him, he will hit back and we will get into a big
fight. If we are caught, I will be sent to the principal’s office, and he might suspend me or
expel from school. If that happens, my mom and dad will get mad at men, and worse, will be
disappointed in me. So maybe I should not do this at all.
When on the brink of losing self-control, students can take deep breaths, talk to someone and
distract him with other things, in order to alleviate the negative emotions burning inside him.
The trouble with children who lack self-control is that they become rebellious, and will be
unable to see or understand what the other children are feeling or thinking about. They will
often resort to anger to let out their steam, and when faced with a difficult situation, they will
rather provoke someone negatively instead of looking for calmer and peaceful ways to
distract him from the problem. In addition, they assume that being aggressive will make them
appear tough and brave to other feelings, and that they might be admired for his behavior.
It is the job of teachers to get this under control and teach a student how to learn self-control.
Here are some tips on how to do just that. First is to let the children come in front of the class,
one by one, and have them demonstrate an emotion. The other kids can identify that feeling.
Then talk about the reasons why they might have these kinds of feelings. The benefit of which
is that you are letting the students name positive ways to cope with these negative feelings.
Some of these ways are talking to a parent, reading a book, chatting with a friend, exercising
and writing down their feelings in a diary.
Make them understand where all those anger are coming from. Explain that losing self-control
is a result of feeling embarrassed, hurt, rejected and misunderstood. Pair the kids and have
them engage in a little role-play. Act out these situations and make them emulate the positive
reactions that you suggested to them. Inspire the children to practice self-control.
Tell them how self-control can contribute positively to their future. Tell them to write an essay
on the kind of life they want when they grow up, or have they drawn the occupation that they
see themselves in the future.
Show them how to make themselves calm. Teach them calming exercises such as taking deep
breaths, counting slowly until their anger melts away etc. Alternatively, you can tell them to
go somewhere quiet in order for them to gather their thoughts and compose themselves.
The result is rewarding. As a teacher, it is your best interest to see these children grow as
responsible individuals. You would never know who would greet you along the street one day
or that someone sent you a warm greeting card stating that he or she was your student way
back.
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